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When youāre trying to mend your broken heart, people are quick to offer words of wisdom. And some breakup advice is lighthearted, like āto get over someone old, you have to get under someone new.ā But some is just pointless. Maybe itās just all your friends can think of saying when you havenāt left the house in two weeks and youāre polishing off your fifth pint of Ben and Jerryās, but it doesnāt help.
Hereās the cheesy breakup advice that doesnāt work, but youāll probably hear it anyway:
- āTime healsā - But it doesnāt. Working on yourself is what heals. Being introspective and figuring out what went wrong and how to avoid the same pitfalls in the future will bring closure and happier, healthier relationships in the future. Crossing days off on a calendar isnāt a fix, thanks anyway.
- āWhen one door closes, another opensā - Maybe at some point down the road a new relationship will happen, but it wonāt appear just because the last one ended and youāre lonely.
- āIf you truly love someone, let them goā - This one just doesnāt make sense. If you love someone, donāt you want to hold onto them? Of course you do, so maybe donāt let them go.
- āIf itās meant to be, it will beā - Things donāt just fall into our hands. Love takes two people making an effort and working on the relationship. And if you want to reconcile after a breakup, sometimes you have to stand outside with a boombox blaring to get your exās attention, not just wait to see what happens.
- āIt is what it isā - This phrase doesnāt leave room for introspection, which you need to heal and move on. Accountability is important and this doesnāt allow for any.
Source: Elite Daily